The promotion of the toddler by the parents

A few days ago I was asked how I support my little son and what measures I take myself. Since I am currently training to be an educator, my friends were probably hoping for some new wisdom regarding early childhood education. For me the questions were logical and I have understanding for this. Because parents always want the best for their children and so it happens that often purchases and investments are made to prepare the child in the best possible way for the future. It is bought, tried out and used. Regardless of whether these measures are ultimately effective or not.

Nowadays, there is an infinite number of electronic children’s toys, toys and the like. There are now even TV channels that specialize in “promoting children” and produce appropriate material for this in the form of videos and TV programs. There are hardly any limits to the ideas here.

What to do as a parent?

But do you need all that these days? Do all these things help in the development of my own child or do I overtax him with this? Do I need to invest in stuff like this to keep up with other kids? What if I can’t afford this? Many questions for which there are no precise answers at first.

After all, a child’s development is by no means a one-way street or something that can be checked off using a checklist. Steady learning takes place and often the games performed are repetitive. My son, for example, was already screwing screws into a wooden slat with a screwdriver when he was two years old. After a few days, this game was done and other interesting things followed. But now, at just under three years, the screw and the wood is interesting again. This time, however, with a cordless screwdriver and not with a screwdriver. What I mean to say is that even small changes are enough to set new impulses and stimuli.

The most important thing for children is to discover and deepen their own senses. Touching, smelling or feeling, for example, are essential functions in a child’s development. The better these are trained, the more intensively a child can gain experience. After all, our senses provide a point of communication with the world.

Do you like to be in the great outdoors? Wonderful! Take your child on a journey of discovery in the forest. You can hardly offer anything better. For the variety and diversity of materials, which offer a forest, are almost unlimited. You are now wondering how I come up with this? Sure there are different types of flora and fauna. But this is not the important point. It’s all about the details. Take two different sticks in your hand and discover them. Everyone is different and even if your child still collects 100. He will notice differences in each. In comparison, with Duplo you have different colors, but still all Duplo bricks are identical. Even more, the cost of the forest is zero. I think you understand what I am trying to say.

Furthermore, it is of course important that you do things together, which you also enjoy yourself. Do you hate cycling or are extremely reluctant to be in the forest? You’d better think about alternatives. Because if you do not enjoy these things, your child will immediately notice this and, accordingly, will not react so interested in the new impressions. This also applies to reading books aloud or listening to music. Manfred Spitzer and Norbert Herschkowitz have written a very nice text about this in the book “Wie Kinder Denken Lernen”: If you like reading Kant, then read Kant to your child and not some children’s book that you don’t like yourself.

It goes without saying that for the optimal development and nurturing of a young child, love, affection and trust are necessary. Don’t take your child’s every step, but guide them through it. Only intervene when it asks for your help and you realize it needs your help. Even if washing your hands or putting on your jacket takes 5 minutes. Simply schedule this time into your daily routine. At the same time, the stress level is much lower as a result.

But what about all the toys now? Are these needed? I recommend providing fewer toys and replacing them at regular intervals (every 4-6 weeks). See what areas your child is currently interested in and then what you can use to address that interest. Incidentally, it has now been proven that TV consumption by young children delays language development and is therefore not ideal. Therefore, limit TV consumption to a minimum. However, I don’t think much of outright bans. The same applies to smartphones or digital learning devices.


So you see, it’s more about shared adventures and togetherness rather than more expensive or fancy toys. Research together with your child and awaken their own spirit of inquiry. Tie in with your child’s current interest and just take your time. In my opinion, this is the best way to support the normal development of a child.

Suggested Citation

Götz, S. (2021). The promotion of the young child by the parents. Creating optimal conditions without stress. ISSN: 2748-2979. Accessed 30.05.2021. Available at:

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